To understand why I do what I do, you need to know some things about me.

For my first 8 years I grew up in communist Poland where struggle and oppression were widespread and had been for centuries. But I was raised in a normal family and was a pretty happy kid. We did normal family things like camped and hiked and crafted. We pitched in on the family farm and celebrated birthdays with cake and presents.  Sure, we didn’t talk about things like gratitude or our dreams or made too many plans, but there were no traumatic things going on. My parents’ relationship had undercurrents of unhappiness from the very start.  My parents married because it was convenient and seemed logical.  Both my parents are highly educated but after we immigrated to Canada they found it tough to find gainful employment.  Every job that came along soon ended and we struggled financially.  My dad was intolerant of other races and of people who were different than him.  My mom gave in and picked up the slack and kept the peace.

My dad is still not happy with who he is and he thinks the world around him is a tragedy full of ugliness and greed.  He left the family when I was 16 in search of something better, I guess. As a 16 year old I pretended to be strong and like I didn’t care that he had left. We were better off without him anyway!  I didn’t even realize the pain that I was holding back and that it would traumatize me for years and leave me seeking approval outside of myself.

At age 18 I met the man who was “The One” and that’s when everything came crashing down on me. Here I was, a young adult who’d had a normal life, and I felt screwed up.  I found that I didn’t trust men and yet here was a man who said he was in love with me.  I discovered that I didn’t trust any dreams or make any plans because they never worked out anyway.  I blamed the world for my circumstances.  I wasn’t grateful for anything and felt like it just wasn’t fair.  I felt bad for what I didn’t have and even worse for what I wanted but thought I could never have.  I felt like I wasn’t good enough or worthy of anything and made choices without caring for the end result – because I felt I had no control over any results.

A few years later I found my own kids a burden and didn’t trust my husband because I thought he would leave me too.  It took me a long time to say I love you to him. I felt I should be happy because I had two beautiful babies and a wonderful husband but I was depressed!  We had made some bad financial choices, lost our business and we were broke but we had love – isn’t that what should make me happy?  I didn’t know who I was as a woman so how could I be expected to raise two adults who are the next leaders of this planet?  I was miserable and I wanted to kill myself because I felt like a wretched human being.

The night I contemplated suicide something inside me said that I did have a choice.  It said that I could be happy and that it was up to me to define and create my happiness.  That got me curious and hungry for what “it” was that would make me happy.  I began reading, listening, studying and learning everything I could about the mind and how we create our lives.  I kept a list of everything that worked and threw out everything that didn’t.  That dark moment in my life was a turning point, and I decided to devote the rest of my professional career to helping others get through their own dark nights.

Especially parents who have the responsibility of raising the next generation. Parents who, like me, have baggage they carry that weighs them down and robs them of peace of mind, confidence, and happiness.

This is WHY I do what I do.  Because to be a good parent you first have to heal. You have to eliminate your own limitations and negativity and fall in love with who you are. Because kids learn more by watching and modeling us parents than they do by listening to what we say. And we can become better and stronger role models when we live from a place of love and harmony.

My dream is to help parents leave guilt behind and to be who they want to be, not who they think they should be to please someone else.  I want children to grow up loving and knowing themselves instead of being some shell of someone else’s pain.  I want to stop the pain of divorce because of poor choices in life partners. I want adults and kids to have healthy boundaries and believe in love, tolerance, authenticity, and peace  and stand up for what they believe in. I want all moms and dads to take care of themselves and nurture themselves so that they can in turn nurture their kids.

I believe this is what’s going to change the world.

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