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As kids we were taught to always say Please and Thank You to others, and this is a very good thing to do.  It promotes kindness and respect among people.  I think many of us consider ourselves as polite and kind individuals so I was very surprised to learn this important lesson about my own manners from the universe. 

I’ve been working with a wonderful and intuitive coach and mentor on limiting beliefs and mindset struggles surrounding abundance that have resurfaced for me.  It surprised me to have this “stuff” come up because I do a lot of inner work with myself and have dealt with these issues before.  My mentor smiled and said to me that it’s common for the plumber to have leaky pipes or the mechanic to have squeaky brakes.  In other words, it’s easier to help others with their “stuff” than to help yourself.  This is why I love working with a coach – they pull out things that I can’t pull out of my own head.

During our sessions my coach sometimes channels messages from the universe.  As I was sharing my frustrations about attracting these struggles again and again, she looked with that look she gets when she channels and said “It’s because you haven’t been grateful for the lessons the universe is wanting to teach you.”

Esther and Jerry Hicks write about the power of gratitude and how important it is.  I keep a gratitude journal and we’ve started a family gratitude book that we write in every day.  I realized that I practice gratitude for the good things in my life but not for all the other things: the more difficult events and people that lead me to learn valuable things. 

My coach helped me release the internal struggles and I also immediately began expressing gratitude for everything – the good and the not so good.  And almost immediately everything changed in this area of my life.  I am attracting abundance in so many different ways now.  It’s like the universe was waiting for me to just be polite towards the abundance so that I would receive it easily.

If you have an area in your life where you’re struggling continually even though you’ve worked on it before, chances are your mindset (your internal thoughts, feelings, and values) is misaligned.  Once you release the struggle and express gratitude for it, you will be amazed at the changes you will experience in your life.  Your mindset will be aligned with your conscious goals and you will easily achieve those goals. 
A coach can be an invaluable asset while you’re making changes in your life because they listen without judgment and are there only for you.  Of course you can speak about things with friends and family but it’s not the same as having an impartial partner who holds a safe space for you to explore all your oprtions.  To get to the bottom of your internal struggles and refocus your energy where you want it within one day, book your free Strategy Session to discover if working with us is right for you.

I’ve been reading this awesome book lately called the Intention Experiment by Lynn McTaggert.  She writes about the science behind intention.  It’s been quite a learning experience to read about all the different types of experiments and research being done in this area.

I’ve been a student and practitioner of Intention for many years.  And no matter how much I think I know, there is more to learn, to practice, and to receive.  It’s definitely been a journey. 

One of the main intentions I had put out for this past year was connections.  I wanted to meet the right people who would catch my vision and help me move it forward.  And when I look back at where I am today compared to when I first put that intention out there, it humbles me! 

I’ve had so many synchronistic meetings and encounters with just the right people this year!  One person would lead me to another and I would get excatly what I needed even before I knew I wanted it sometimes. 

I often get asked what I do to bring in clients and my answer is I network a lot.  The next logical question is then “does that work?” My answer is absolutely!  Because I always meet the right people at the right time.  And they are always those people that I need in my life.  My purpose in wanting to connect with others is not to meet everyone in a room or at an event.  Of course, the more people know about my work the better, but that’s not the whole idea.  I want to connect with those people who I am meant to connect with and build a relationship with to help both our visions. 

I’ve been very fortunate so far that the Universe is bringing those people to me.  I get so excited when we begin brainstorming and envisioning what we can accmplish together.  Intention really works whether scientifically or on faith.  It works and I’m glad I found it all those years ago.

I have been thinking about this comment that was said to me a couple of months ago and I have finally realized that I have been living my life this way for as long as I can remember. I will only reflect on bits and pieces that are the most meaningful to me at this point. Before Kasia and I had our own business I used to work in the hotel industry which in itself is a very demanding field to be in,  but I took it to the next level on several occasions one of which included a 36 hour shift. When we had our own Auto Repair shop I delivered newspapers in the middle of the night to keep the business afloat and keep our children fed and warm. Did I think about myself in these times? I can honestly say, without a shadow of a doubt, I did not. My biggest concern was providing for my family and doing whatever it took to do that.

Even just thinking about my favorite movies, they are all related to doing whatever it takes to get to where you need to be. “Lord of the Rings”, Frodo does what needs to be done to save Middle Earth, The “Jason Bourne Trilogy”, Jason Bourne does whatever it takes to find out who he really is,”Oceans 11,12 and 13″, again the team does whatever it takes to pull off their final goal. Some movies that you may or may not know and are a little more on the edgy side of life are the movie “8 Mile” by Eminem, this one is about Marshal Mathers a.k.a Eminem trying to become a rap star even though he comes from a broken family living in a trailer park with his drug addicted alcoholic mother all the while fighting the negative feedback he is getting for being a caucasion rapper.  And one last one along those lines as well is “Get Rich or Die Tryin’” with 50 Cent as the lead. This is 50 cents life story about being involved in drug dealing and gang relations as a teenager and then trying to break free from that life. He runs into resistance in the streets and eventually gets shot but fights back and eventually he makes it fulfilling his ultimate dream. These may be very extreme examples but they resonate with DOING WHATEVER IT TAKES, because all the characters in those examples did whatever it took to reach their ultimate goal.

Even just a few years back when Kasia came to me telling me very passionately that she needs to give back to the world, that we did not go through our life experience to not give back and teach others that there is a better way. Once again the fighter inside me was fired up and I asked her, what do you need from me. I had very recently started training to be a transit operator and as soon as I could I was working the late evening shift so Kasia could work day shift and do her schooling at night with no distractions. The kids were sleeping and I was at work. Don’t get me wrong they were trying times as well, we always tell people it was like having an affair with your own spouse, only seeing each other a few days a month. But we did it this time knowing there was a very bright light at the end of that tunnel.

Even now we are both working in Fresh Perspective Family as a team, while I still drive the bus full time and we are doing whatever it takes to get our message and teachings out there. It would be very selfish if we did not share our knowledge of living a better, more fulfilling life as parents with kids that will do whatever it takes, and not take “I can’t do this” for an answer. Kids that march to the beat of their very own drum, with an extremely positive outlook on life and taking responsibility for ALL their actions. We are teaching our kids that if you do something amazing, OWN IT, if you mess something up big time, OWN IT, and of course everything in between as well.

My final thoughts to you all are OWN whatever you do and DO whatever it takes to OWN what you are doing. Please leave your comments. I appreciate all feedback.

I’m in New York City for a few days this week and also in Stamford, CT, for a few days at my mastermind meeting.  NYC is a busy city – the busiest I have ever witnessed.  Even Vancouver, which was busy during the Olympics, pales in comparison to the crowds and traffic of NYC. 

What struck me while we made our way on the subway to Manhattan and also while walking around, sightseeing, is the types of people that would speak to or interact with us.  We had to ask for directions a few times and we also bought food and a couple little things.  The people, for the most part, were friendly and helpful. Some of them were annoyed and some extremely passionate about what drives them crazy.

Dr Matthew James teaches about perception is projection.  This is a concept that most people who are familiar with the NLP field will know about.  It means that the world outside of us is a projection of what’s inside of us.  It means, that those people I meet who are negative and focus on what they don’t want are at some level reflecting back to me what I still feel deep down.  

Some people are negative and that’s their stuff and as much as we are all beings of energy and we live in a holographic universe, we still experience the physical world around us.  So people have their own stuff and they love to share it.  I love to share my stuff too!  I strive to focus on the stuff that empowers and inspires me.  I don’t complain about things that are within my control to change – most of the time.   I also tend to attract people who are kind, positive, and have high energy about them.  And sometimes I interact withe people who are the opposite, it’s inevitable.

So where am I going with all this?  Well, that no matter how much releasing and self work we do, until we enlighten, there will always be bits and pieces of ourselves to work on.   The people we interact with will keep reflecting back to us what we project out there.  And this is a good thing!  Because it gives us a gauge of where we’re at.

Now that I am working within my true purpose here and building this business to empower others, I keep meeting more and more high energy people who pull me forward.  Which means that I am projecting out there more and more of what I want and more of the details of what’s possible for me.  I’m fortunate – so very fortunate! – that my husband, my kids, and some other members of my family understand what I want to build and support me so deeply in my pursuits.  It means that my projections to the universe have always reflected the things that I wanted to achieve, even before I knew about them.  And to me this is a comforting thought. 

It’s important for all of us to keep focusing on what we want and to be relentless about this.  The more we do, and the more we release our limits and self imposed ceilings, the better the world will reflect positive changes that we’re creating.  That’s the beauty of perception is projection!   There are so many awesome and easy tools to help release these things – all it takes is commitment and desire to do it.  Then we see what’s possible and we begin to understand the steps that we need to take to get what we want.  (Now, knowing how to know what you want – if you don’t know how to do that – that’s another blog post.)

I spoke to a wonderful group of moms this morning and had such a great time. I decided to really put into practice what my energy healer and other teachers have been telling me.  It’s all stuff I know…and today I decided that I would implement and not just think.

I created a focus and intention before going into the conference room to give my speech and I wrote a goal card for this morning.  I have been looking forward and preparing to speak to this group for a few weeks and I wanted to make sure I did my absolute best. So my attitude and energy were on board, and now my focus and intention were on board.

There were some babies crying and people coming in late and other noise.  And my presentation went off without a hitch! I engaged the audience, they had tons of questions, and I felt like I really developed a good connection with them.  At the end I asked about what they had learned and many of the moms had some awesome takeaways that they shared. 

I’m very fortunate to have had this speech go so well. I know that it’s not just luck but that it’s my own willingness and determination to show up.  I intended all my ducks to line up and did my part to make sure that they would, and they did!

Thank you universe.